The Drunk Man Saga

Our ex-manager no longer works for us. It’s because he ended up in the hospital back in November. We’re still not sure what was wrong with him. He couldn’t breathe, fell down in his filthy apartment, and was lacking oxygen. He spent a week in the hospital, and was released no longer able to work. He won’t tell us what is wrong, but we’re thinking emphysema, among other things.

I am referring to him as the Drunk Man, because he most likely is. Being a heavy drinker is probably what caused his problem. He thought we didn’t know, but we were all well aware of what was going on. He had one of those beet red noses, and made a mad dash for home each day at 5 p.m. to get his fix. Oh, and he was a heavy smoker as well, which came to a screeching halt after the hospital incident. That’s because I hear that oxygen is highly flammable.

Since November, we paid him twice, but when it appeared he was never coming back, we terminated him. Mr. D gave TDM a car, and continues to pay his health insurance, at least until the disability kicks in. He was grossly overpaid anyway. For the amount of money he was making, he should have done more than sleep five hours a day at his desk.

TDM now uses my husband’s “bitch” as his own. This little twerp of a man is 70 years old but can’t retire because his life is in a shambles. So he acts as a go-fer for Mr. D. Now he has become the paid go-fer for TDM.

We learned that Go-Fer has been providing TDM with groceries each week. In those groceries is three liters of vodka. I couldn’t drink three liters of vodka in three years, but I’ve seen TDM drink. I’m thinking the Go-Fer is TDM’s pusher, and I told him so. However, TDM pays well, so he’s not going to offer up his advice.

TDM now lives with his elderly mother, who liquidated her entire life on the West Coast of the state to move here. The mother stayed with us while TDM was in the hospital, and we like her a lot. TDM used to complain about his mother, but it’s true that people usually complain about their own mothers. Mr. D and I no longer have living mothers, and TDM’s mother was very nice.

Since she moved here, we have been trying to have her over for dinner. She refuses to leave TDM alone. I don’t know if she realizes he has a serious drinking problem or not. TDM takes his alcohol into his room, according to Go-Fer.

In the meantime, we promoted a guy (one that I originally hired for the office, above the objections of everyone) from instructor to TDM’s position. I was hoping this would happen. New Manager is personable, knows the office, has been teaching for over a year and I like him. Plus he smells good, which is always handy.

The drama comes in because New Manager really has the least amount of seniority. Of course, when Mr. D initially hired TDM, he had only been working as an instructor for a month. Talk about low man on the totem pole.

There’s a lot of rumblings within the ranks, and New Manager doesn’t like it, because he want everyone to like him. I told him to get a tougher skin. When you’re at the top of the food chain, lots of people aren’t going to like you. In fact, many people don’t like me, and I know it. However, the buck stops here, and that’s why I’m such a hard ass.

6 Responses

  1. New Manager may not be around for long, you realize? Some people, and it sounds like he’s one of them, would rather leave the situation than deal with it. We’re the ones that want to be everyone’s friend and can’t sleep at night when we know or suspect that someone doesn’t like us. Thick skin is something you are either born with or not. I don’t think you can develop it.

    I think you guys were far too nice to TDM, by the way.

  2. He’s going to have to grow an aligator hide. It can be done, but it isn’t pleasant.

    You were much nicer to TDM than most would have been. I’m glad. The world needs nice people.

  3. Soon medical science will be able to provide skin transplants.

    The old skins will have to be removed, hardened, and applied within 24 hours. For people out of work, skinning will be a growth industry.

  4. If New Manager has children, I would recommend explaining to him that it’s a lot like being a parent — that while it’s lovely and possible for people working for you to like you, it’s not necessary to get things done. If he’s polite and fair and supportive of his people, then it’s not his fault if he’s not liked — it’s something wrong with them. And their loss.

    Stuff’s got to get done.

  5. yep, more important for his career both with you and in the future for him to work towards being respected, rather than liked. Sometimes he is going to have to make unpopular but necessary decisions if he’s really going to manage the team rather than be their ‘pal’.

    He’ll get used to it 🙂

  6. I wonder if TDM could have a skin graft, Dr. B. His legs from the knees down are completely black.

    The New Manager is a nice guy. His girlfriend recently split from him and went to Texas to be close to the parents. He has no children, just an elderly grandmother who has Alzheimers. I don’t think he’s going anywhere.

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